Whats NLP all about?
Neuro simply refers to the fact that all our behaviour stems from our neurological processes – i.e. what we see, feel, hear and touch.
Linguistic is because we use language to order our thoughts and behaviour. We use language to communicate with others. We also use “non-spoken” language to communicate – i.e. body language and posture.
Programming references the fact we can enter new programs into our brain – i.e. new ways of thinking or acting, new habits and new beliefs. If you are capable of learning a new skill, you can succeed with NLP. Note to sceptics – if you can read this or write your name, you can learn new skills.
NLP is not strictly a therapy, its more of a toolbox used as an adjunct by therapists practicing in other therapeutic disciplines such as Hypnotherapy.
Some of the tools I use within my other therapies are:-
Modelling behaviour can be used to find out how you’re doing what you don’t want to do consistently to allow for change. It can also be used to find out how to do what you want and implement it in your life by modelling the behaviours of successful role models.
An anchor is a stimulus that creates a response in either you or in another person. When an individual is at a peak of an experience, during an intense. emotional state, and if a specific stimulus is applied, a neurological link is established between the emotional state and the stimulus.
We develop good and bad anchors automatically throughout our lives and NLP training will enable you to identify and keep our good anchors and also identify and weed out our unwanted anchors, replacing them with more desirable ones.
Anchoring is used to lock in resource states and apply them to other areas of life.
For instance someone with social anxiety could be reminded of a time when they felt confident and have that resource anchored and associated with the social setting that causes anxiety.
- Meta Model
The Meta Model is a set of language patterns that reconnects the deletions, distortions and generalisations that occur in everyday language use with the experience that generated them.
Some examples would be:-
- “They are out to get me”. “Who is?”
- “It’s a matter of opinion”. “What is?”
- “The neighbourhood has been ruined”. “Who ruined it and how did they ruin it?”
- “Pets are a nuisance”. “What pets?”
- Milton Model
The Milton Model is a set of language patterns used for inducing trance or an altered state of consciousness and utilising unconscious resources to make desirable changes and solve difficult problems.
Otherwise described as “metaphors for artfully vague suggestions.”
Some light examples of this would be:-
- “Are you sitting comfortably” (Presupposes that you get comfortable)
- “Is the door still open?” (Presupposes that you check the door is closed and close it if necessary)
- “Is the kettle on?” (Ok you got this – bet your thinking about a cup of tea or coffee now)
- Failure to feedback loops.
Are you failing and getting nowhere or are you learning a new skill, like a child just getting to grips with learning how to walk. Delving into what you’ve learned from the times you didn’t succeed will show you just how much you have learned and grown by those learning experiences.
- Congruence signals.
These are body language cues that show me how honest you are being with yourself and me during therapy. An example would be someone not making eye contact and showing depressed body language whilst telling me they are confident and outgoing. Another example would be someone telling me of a past trauma that they have gotten over with a tear in their eye and negative microgestures of pain on their face. Language says one thing but the body says another.
- Swish Pattern
This ones fun, its used for addictions, behaviours and allows for the quick and direct changes in neural associations that leads to lasting behavioural changes.
- Phobia Cure
Another fun tool that allows for the quick removal of phobias by dislocating the emotional state from the phobia. This one can also be used for other issues like emotional pain associated with past relationships.
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